Social and Emotional Learning

Feb 27, 2020 09:48am

By Pilar Bewley

Under 3 - 6, 6 - 12, On Parenting, Siblings, Social and Emotional Learning, brainstorming, children, critical thinking skills, imagination, montessori, montessori approach, montessori education, parent education, parenthood, parenting, positive discipline, problem-solving & rivalry

6 min read

Raising Creative Problem-Solvers

Do you constantly referee children's disagreements? Do you tend to side with one child, frustrating the other? Or do you offer solutions, only to be ignored? If you're nodding in response to any of these questions, then read on!

kids fighting

The scenario:

My 4.5-year-old daughter and 8-year-old son share a room. It's the only place in the house where they're allowed to play LEGOs, so the plastic pieces don't take over our living room/homeschool area. Both kids love LEGOs, but my older son likes to li…

Feb 27, 2020 09:48am

By Pilar Bewley

Under 3 - 6, 6 - 12, On Parenting, Siblings, Social and Emotional Learning, brainstorming, children, critical thinking skills, imagination, montessori, montessori approach, montessori education, parent education, parenthood, parenting, positive discipline, problem-solving & rivalry

6 min read

Jan 2, 2020 02:05pm

By Pilar Bewley

Under 6 - 12, Nature, On Parenting, Social and Emotional Learning, brene brown, children, grit, growth mindset, hiking, homeschool, homeschooling, natureschool, parenthood, parenting, personal growth & resilience

2 min read

Why We Hike

"Why do we have to do this hike?", complained my almost-eight-year-old son, his arms drooping by his sides. We had been hiking for almost two hours, had just conquered a half-mile 500-foot elevation gain, and still faced another mile uphill before reaching the summit.

My husband, unable to stomach my son's complaints, put our younger daughter in the carrier and charged up the hill. I took a deep breath and silently asked myself, "Why do we make them hike?"

Walking beside my son at his maddeningl…

Jan 2, 2020 02:05pm

By Pilar Bewley

Under 6 - 12, Nature, On Parenting, Social and Emotional Learning, brene brown, children, grit, growth mindset, hiking, homeschool, homeschooling, natureschool, parenthood, parenting, personal growth & resilience

2 min read

May 21, 2019 08:33am

By Pilar Bewley

Under 6 - 12, Favorite Books, Nature, On Parenting, Social and Emotional Learning, attachment, behavioral challenges, childhood development, children, compassionate parenting, entitlement, homeschooling, parenting, parents, positive discipline & unschooling

4 min read

The Entitlement Myth

A few weeks into his first-grade year, my formerly sweet and relatively cooperative son began acting sassy, cocky, and entitled. Requests for help were met with groans and eye-rolls. Limits were countered with sighs and "whatever"s.

We gave him the benefit of a doubt: Surely he was just imitating his older classmates' rude behaviors. Or maybe this was a misguided attempt at being more independent. All my friends' children were acting the same way, so it was probably a developmental phase. Re…

May 21, 2019 08:33am

By Pilar Bewley

Under 6 - 12, Favorite Books, Nature, On Parenting, Social and Emotional Learning, attachment, behavioral challenges, childhood development, children, compassionate parenting, entitlement, homeschooling, parenting, parents, positive discipline & unschooling

4 min read

Mar 26, 2019 07:43am

By Pilar Bewley

Under On Parenting, Social and Emotional Learning, Theory and Practice, childhood development, children, compassion, compassionate parenting, early childhood development, empathy, parenting & parents

3 min read

The Good Struggle

This morning, let's talk about compassion (identifying our common struggles) and empathy (letting others know they're not alone).

Raise your hand if you want your child to show compassion and empathy for others. OK, that's pretty much everyone in the audience. Put your hands down.

Now, raise your hand if you want your child to suffer. Anyone? Anyone? *crickets*

Most of us agree that it's painful to watch our child get hurt (physically or emotionally). So painful, in fact, that it triggers the …

Mar 26, 2019 07:43am

By Pilar Bewley

Under On Parenting, Social and Emotional Learning, Theory and Practice, childhood development, children, compassion, compassionate parenting, early childhood development, empathy, parenting & parents

3 min read

Mar 24, 2019 04:34pm

By Pilar Bewley

Under 3 - 6, 6 - 12, Favorite Books, On Parenting, Siblings, Social and Emotional Learning, bedtime, books, children, literacy, mindfulness, movement, reading, Sleep & yoga

1 min read

BOTW: Good-Night Yoga

On a recent date night at a local bookstore (exciting, I know), my husband came across Good-Night Yoga: A Pose-By-Pose Bedtime Story. Neither of us practice yoga, but we'd been trying to find activities we can do as a family in the evenings that will engage both a three-year-old and a seven-year-old AND that will help us transition peacefully into the bedtime routine.

We've been reading and yoga-ing with this book a couple of evenings a week for the past month, and it's become on of our favorite…

Mar 24, 2019 04:34pm

By Pilar Bewley

Under 3 - 6, 6 - 12, Favorite Books, On Parenting, Siblings, Social and Emotional Learning, bedtime, books, children, literacy, mindfulness, movement, reading, Sleep & yoga

1 min read

Mar 21, 2019 03:57pm

By Pilar Bewley

Under Montessori Theory, On Parenting, Social and Emotional Learning, Theory and Practice, children, education, montessori, montessori approach, montessori education, montessori method & school

4 min read

The Puzzle-Child

Over the years of working in Montessori classrooms I've met many children who are eager to attend lessons, engage in follow-up work, and share their new knowledge. And then there are the occasional "puzzles" (as my son's Primary guide once referred to him). How do you know if you live or work with a puzzle-child? puzzle Puzzle-children are those for whom learning comes easily but who see most teaching as a hindrance to their own learning agenda. On a good day, they grumpily humor your agenda for a s…

Mar 21, 2019 03:57pm

By Pilar Bewley

Under Montessori Theory, On Parenting, Social and Emotional Learning, Theory and Practice, children, education, montessori, montessori approach, montessori education, montessori method & school

4 min read

Dec 22, 2018 09:41am

By Pilar Bewley

Under On Parenting, Social and Emotional Learning, entitlement, kids, montessori, montessori education, montessori method, parenting, parents, Practical Life, self-esteem & work

3 min read

Entitlement: Been There, Done That

Few things trigger me more than interacting with a child who has an entitled attitude. rich-kid

Why? Because I was one of them. I grew up in a traditional Mexican upper-middle-class family, with a stay-at-home mom and two maids who did all the housework so we didn't have to. I never did my laundry, tidied my room, or set a table. Those things just happened!

When I was 18, my mom went back to school and decided that I needed to learn how to run a home. One night, my dad was coming home a bit later th…

Dec 22, 2018 09:41am

By Pilar Bewley

Under On Parenting, Social and Emotional Learning, entitlement, kids, montessori, montessori education, montessori method, parenting, parents, Practical Life, self-esteem & work

3 min read

Jun 3, 2018 07:52pm

By Pilar Bewley

Under On Parenting, Social and Emotional Learning, brene brown, depression, emotional intelligence, empathy, parenthood, parenting, postpartum depression & self-regulation

5 min read

You're Not Alone

As children, we learned to deal with our big emotions by seeing how our parents handled theirs. My mom chose the "nothing's wrong so put on a happy face" route, while my dad preferred the "slam a door and punch a hole in the wall" approach. After trying out both strategies, I gravitated towards my dad's method. Not surprisingly, I married a lovely man who followed the approach my mom had modeled.

During the first years of both my children's lives, I fought a long and lonely battle with postpa…

Jun 3, 2018 07:52pm

By Pilar Bewley

Under On Parenting, Social and Emotional Learning, brene brown, depression, emotional intelligence, empathy, parenthood, parenting, postpartum depression & self-regulation

5 min read

Apr 22, 2017 12:33pm

By Pilar Bewley

Under Montessori Theory, On Parenting, Practical Life, Social and Emotional Learning, early childhood development, montessori, montessori activities, montessori approach, montessori blogs, montessori education, montessori method, parenting & toddlers

6 min read

A Deep Understanding

When I became a mom, I realized that it takes a parent to understand a parent. I have been blessed to have a worldwide community of Montessori-trained friends who are navigating the same beautiful, yet often turbulent, waters of parenthood with me.

One of my wisest friends is Junnifa Uzodike, the founder of the Nduoma Montessori blog. She contacted me through my blog some years ago, when she was beginning her Montessori journey, and we have shared countless conversations about motherhood and Mo…

Apr 22, 2017 12:33pm

By Pilar Bewley

Under Montessori Theory, On Parenting, Practical Life, Social and Emotional Learning, early childhood development, montessori, montessori activities, montessori approach, montessori blogs, montessori education, montessori method, parenting & toddlers

6 min read

Mar 8, 2017 09:58pm

By Pilar Bewley

Under Social and Emotional Learning, emotional intelligence, montessori, montessori education & positive discipline

3 min read

Safe Haven

A recent visitor from Russia gifted our classroom with a truly exquisite set of nesting dolls, the smallest of which was no larger than the fingernail on my pinky. All the children were curious about the dolls, but Annie, a nine-year-old who was new to our classroom, was truly enamored by the set. Between academic activities, she would spend time lining up the dolls and then nesting them again.

I was absent for a few hours on Tuesday morning, and by Wednesday three boys made the discovery that …

Mar 8, 2017 09:58pm

By Pilar Bewley

Under Social and Emotional Learning, emotional intelligence, montessori, montessori education & positive discipline

3 min read

My Blog

Social and Emotional Learning

Raising Creative Problem-Solvers

The scenario:

Why We Hike

The Entitlement Myth

The Good Struggle

BOTW: Good-Night Yoga

The Puzzle-Child

Entitlement: Been There, Done That

You're Not Alone

A Deep Understanding

Safe Haven

Categories